Did you know that 20 percent of marriages are sexless? That’s pretty tragic. After all, sex is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship in marriage.
Even if your marriage is not quite at this worrying stage yet, it’s never too late to spice things up at home with your wife or husband.
Remember, it’s a slippery slope! If you suspect that your marriage is starting to get predictable, you need to make changes now to save it.
Our tips could be the answer you’ve been searching for. Learn more about how you can spice up your marriage before it goes stale. Let’s get started!
1. Send a Sext
Have you ever sent your wife or husband a sext?
Around 88 percent of Americans say they’ve sexted someone within the past year. That’s nearly 9 in 10 people who have sent a saucy message or racy picture to a love interest.
If you haven’t sent a sext, then you’re missing out on the fun. In marriage, it’s easy to limit text messages to “what time are you home?” and “did you pick up the kids?”.
When sexting your partner, don’t be vague and abstract. Remind your partner of a particularly exciting experience you shared together to get their horny juices flowing.
2. Enjoy Watching Porn Together
Do you hide your sexual fantasies from each other? Do stash your erotic literature under the bed?
This should definitely be avoided in your marriage if you want to keep things exciting. Instead, try to embrace each other’s sexual imagination with openness.
Watch pornography together to discover more about each other’s sexual appetite and taste.
90 percent of men and 60 percent of women watch porn. Therefore, we can agree that watching porn is popular.
However, only 53 percent of couples watch porn together, even though there is a correlation between watching porn and having more sex together.
If watching porn is simply not your thing. You could always share erotic literature. Or, try to talk about past sexual experiences together to get each other in the mood.
3. Plan Sex Slots in Your Schedule
Many Americans say that they’re busy all the time. When could we possibly find the time to have sex?
For some couples, planning sex may sound like the opposite of spicing things up. But, it works for others!
You could treat sex like any of your other leisure activities, such as playing tennis. Add it to your calendar on a regular basis and stick to it.
When you know you’ve got a sex session coming up that evening with your wife or husband, you’ll have all day to get turned on. You don’t need to limit yourself to the time either.
Pick a place—the kitchen or the back-seat of the car?
Pick a position—missionary or doggie style?
Choose an outfit—superheroes or the classic boss and secretary?
4. Put Together a Sexual Bucket List
More than one-quarter of Americans in a relationship say that they have a sexual fantasy which they’re afraid to reveal to their partner. There is a pretty high chance that your wife or husband also has a fantasy or two which they would love to share.
Next time you get the chance, share your sexual fantasies together on a bucket list. You can then one-by-one make your way through your list of kinky acts.
Ever been to a swingers party together? Check it out!
Ever wanted to pretend to be strangers in a bar? Your partner might get excited about the prospect of reliving your first date.
Are you too shy to talk about it together? It may be easier to write down five each on a piece of paper, then swap at the end.
5. Visit a Sex Therapist
What would you need a sex therapist for? That’s for sexual disorders, right?
Well, actually sex therapists can help individuals and couples with a wide range of problems and challenges related to sex.
What’s the harm of visiting a sex therapist? You never know whether you could improve your sexual relationship by talking through your problems with a professional.
While sex therapy is definitely not for everyone. You never know what could help turn around your marriage.
6. Send Your Partner a Sexy Gift
You could give your partner a sexy surprise by sending them a gift. What if they received a present while they were at work?
Your partner might notice you put on your panties in the morning. But then, you could deliver them a package containing the same panties by the time they arrive at the office. This would surely spice things up.
Get creative with a bunch of hot gifts to send “special” delivery to your wife or husband.
7. Go Sex Toy Shopping
Did you know that around 1 in 2 women have vibrators? This may be a shock to some naive men out there.
However, to other men, it’s not news at all. Around 81 percent of women have introduced sex toys into their sex life.
But, what about the shopping experience too? You can go to the sex toy store together to pick out a new toy.
You don’t need to pay in cash to avoid your partner seeing it like normal. This time they’ll be standing next to you trying to decide whether you should buy the pink or the black dildo.
This can be a really fun activity to do together. Worst-case scenario, you both find the whole thing a bit too much and rush home to get into bed together.
Spice up Your Marriage
If your relationship is on the brink, it’s time to spice up your marriage. You could be surprised by how injecting a dose of fun and spontaneity into your relationship can spark new life.
Follow our tips and advice from fun things to try in bed to hot activities to do out of the bedroom too.
Do you want more tips on how to live a happy and healthy life? Check out our blog post on how to improve your mood here.